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PinkDot 2014

For Family. For Friends. For Love.

Pink Dot 2013

Last year while i was in Singapore, i got to be a small part of PinkDot 2013 with a lovely friend of mine. She’s such a gem to tag along with me. PinkDot is an event where the LGBT community and their friends and families gather together to celebrate the freedom to love. While i wont’t be part of PinkDot 2014, what i experienced last year was an eye opener. I was moved to see so many people (close to 20000 strong) LGBT and straight people come together from all over the region to celebrate gender equality, bonds of friendship, and a universal freedom to love and be loved.

Kudos to pinkdot.sg for this year’s PinkDot video:

Last year I was touched to see the families of LGBTs showing up in full force to support their gay family members with unbiassed love and understanding. So i means a lot to me to be able to share my thoughts on this meaningful event. Because being amidst such an amazing crowd, one can’t help to feel a sense of belonging and acceptance.

If you have never been to the PinkDot, you should – for it is a place where any one can come together and feel safe, without fear of prejudice and truly understand that within each individual, lies a basic need: to love and be loved – freely.

When we set aside our outer differences, we are left with being just human beings.

For Family. For Friends. For Love.

The Serenity Prayer.

In the past few days, i was fortunate to have found a long lost friend, through youtube. I’ve been an avid follower of his blog until he stopped blogging some years ago. Upon getting in touch with him, i learnt that he has been through some tough times and is getting back onto his feet. He’s a special guy. and So is is boyfriend. And after learning of their story and their life’s struggles, i was compelled to reflect on the human paradox of the two things in life which are in and out of our control.

Like they say, “Shit Happens.” And indeed they do.

But we cant control what sort of shits that were to befall us.


What we can do, is control how we respond to what happened, regardless to what it is.

Each of us would have our own remedy for the shits that life throw at us; here’s mine, and it’s called The Serenity Prayer. : )

God grant me the serenity 
to accept the things I cannot change;
courage to change the things I can;
and wisdom to know the difference.

Living one day at a time;
Enjoying one moment at a time;
Accepting hardships as the pathway to peace;
Taking, as He did, this sinful world
as it is, not as I would have it;

Trusting that He will make all things right
if I surrender to His Will;
That I may be reasonably happy in this life
and supremely happy with Him
Forever in the next.

            –Reinhold Niebuhr

Be in control.

: )

Never Eat too Much Before Rapture


There’s this awesome awesome show happening this weekend in Singapore!


 ‘Never eat Too Much Before Rapture’, or NETMBR (pronounced net-tem-ber) is an experimental theatre show that showcases 35 original short plays in 70 minutes; all plays are written, directed, and performed by the cast. It opens this weekend and we’d be stoked to see you in the audience!

Curious yet? 😛

Dates: 20-22 June @ 8pm / 21 & 22 June @ 3pm
Venue: Play Den @ The Arts House at The Old Parliment
Admission: SGD 20

For tickets, call +6566029900 or visit dmr.eventclique.com to book a spot!

Catch them also at https://www.facebook.com/NETMBR

: )


Thank You

for all the wonderful things in my life
for the blessings from above
for the friendships which sprouts from unassuming places
for the gifts that which i am grateful for
for the love that warms the heart
for the people in my life who’s built me up and brought me down
for the challenges that stands in my way
for the lessons learnt the hard way
for the church You’ve led me to and planted me in
for the food that nourished the body
for the help rendered when in need
for the patience given when tried
for the laughter brawled when shared
for the joy in my heart from Your presence…

… there is just SO MUCH i am thankful for in my life i don’t know where to begin!

i know i should start at some point, it might as well be now. : )


– start of rant –

Being stuck in traffic jams causes problems.

Being stuck in an elevator causes problems.

Being stuck in a faulty relationship causes problems.

Having your crown jewel stuck between the zipper causes… well, you get the idea.

Sometimes being stuck in a situation or condition that repeatedly recurs, which might seem harmless, can cause problems too.

Habits. Behaviours. A way of life – the norm.

And before you know it, a whole lot of time, energy, and effort would have been wasted while being in the state of “stuck-ness”.

Alot of people try to get out of being stuck. Some just hate to be stuck that they constantly keep themselves busy with work – hoping to distract them from being in the state. Others unwind to music. A few resort to shopping therapy.

But sometimes, no matter how much one tries, one still find oneself back at square one, being “stuck”.

How to ah like this? :\

– end of rant –